What do St.Louis, Columbus, Philadelphia, and Maine have in common?

Maine winter road

Sometimes it's good to write daily, catch all the fascinating details, see the pebbles in the mosaic.  Other times it's good to let a bunch of Wow's and Ugh's blow past then look back to see which gems stand out, what patterns emerge.  At least, that's my excuse for now trying to make sense of the last 2,424 miles and 20 days since leaving Wichita.

MILES (and miles, and miles)

We vowed to make travel days meaningful, not just endless Interstate filler between destinations.  Sometimes that's true.  An hour-long pre-to-post sunrise setting rural Kansas fog on fire around and below the rural highway.  Listening in awe to an entire Harlequin audio-romance (it turns out strong-willed independent Mae really did crave a burly-chested hero who would still chuckle respectfully about her paleontology hobby after all...), or the much classier Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver (has she ever written a book not jaw-droppingly rich?)  Meeting the same Rivian EV truck at three successive charging stations (what a different experience a biracial gay couple must have had crossing through rural Kansas I can only guess.) Farm towns and mining towns and mountain towns, alternately prospering or decaying or just stagnant. Swimming through the graduated timing and plant varieties of Autumn in progressive ecosystems, finally dwindling as we turned north. Getting lost and almost out-of-charge at midnight in backwoods Maine.  Tasting the brisk salty Atlantic winds on a two-hour ferry ride across the famous Bay of Fundy.

Other parts of the drive were just Long.  Driving under the speed limit to stretch the electric charge to the next station. Staying awake and engaged in my thoughts while Sarah works beside me.  How many miles before I reach for the next Trader Joe's peanut butter cup (dark chocolate of course)?  Our rule of driving 8 hours/500 miles max was too much to feel fully free to explore back roads and historical markers and local donut shops.  Our next leg we are dividing each long day into two, 3-5 hour jaunts, so we can sleep in, drive slow, stop often, and discover more golden nuggets we would have otherwise missed (like Fredericton NB and Kingston ON).

COLLEGE TOUR

Two and four years after doing the prospective-college tours with our boys, we are now doing the triumphant Victory Tour.  We've had the joy of visiting young friends studying in Boulder, St. Louis, Indiana (Earlham), Philadelphia, and Bowdoin Maine.  Each one of these sophomores are delighted with the choices they finally made - all the angst of how to choose the "right" college fades into a Joyful immersion into wherever they land that turns it into the right one.

Each young person was also genuinely thrilled and honoured to have us make the effort to come visit.  Sarah and I have been blessed with the chance to develop real relationships with our children's friends, and cherish the chance to now grow those relationships into this new phase of their lives, sit as old adult to young adult, play a bit of mentoring and a bit of "you've got this" cheerleading and a lot of wonder at how these young goofballs are now bonafide majors and future leaders in education, urban planning, business, Peace and global studies, counselling psychology...  They also enjoyed being treated to the dinner of their choice (fancy Italian, that ritzy Mexican joint she'd been craving, even a Five Guys binge, and one care package with pizza Pringles, sour-patch kids, spray-can cheese and Fireball-flavoured chocolates).

ONCE A SOCCER MOM, ALWAYS A SOCCER MOM

The single biggest energy-release of empty-nesting has been not watching 3-6 sports games per week.  But we also miss that excitement and striving of our children, and the camaraderie of the shivering parents beside us.  For one glorious fall weekend, we got to cheer the Haverford Donkeys through 6 glorious games of ultimate frisbee, culminating in the tense "ultimate point" that cinched our third-place honours.  Zekiah is still a remarkably gifted, inspired and powerful athlete, such a pleasure to watch him still improving and loving sports (he also plays club soccer and intramural basketball, volleyball, hockey...)

In each phase of our wandering lives, we've witnessed our boys gathering fun, thoughtful, intelligent, global-minded, diverse and interesting people close to them. On this visit, we found that the college version of Zekiah is no different.  While we were impressed with all the Haverford students we met, the four roommates we got to take out for a Venezuelan arepa feast were particularly amazing.  We left after 4 days thoroughly assured that our son is thriving, in a place that fulfills the promise to nurture his whole being, and with people who help him grow and enjoy the journey.  What more could a parent want from a weekend college visit?

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